Wednesday, March 13, 2013

My personality

Melancholic Perfectionistic, Analytical, Thirst for Knowledge, Sensitivity
Phlegmatic calm, peaceful, reserved, tolerant, fear
Choleric doing things their way,

This sounds like me (and it's how I score on DISC):

    Melancholic/Phlegmatic  see also (CS T4/2 Cool Winter?) are often teachers and scholars. They are not as prone to hostility as other melancholy blends and combine analysis with organization. They make excellent accountants and bookkeepers. Unfortunately he can become easily discouraged and may be susceptible to fear and anxiety. They may become uncooperative because of stubborn, rigid tendencies. (Melancholic square face, Phlegmatic round face)
    You are a serious, soft spoken introvert who others would label pessimistic, but you correctly understand that you are realistic. When others are in a frenzy, you are calm. You stand back, analyze the situation, find the problem create a solution. You are slow to act, but when you do it is well thought out and steadily implemented. You don't leap into things you won't finish and you do not require a shower of compliments to keep going like Sanguines do.
    The melancholic-phlegmatic is tidier, more procedural and less flexible than the phlegmatic-melancholic. He may be slower to take on new projects, as the melancholic fear of new situations and tendency to perfectionism takes over. The double-dose of introversion, along with the melancholic tendency to negativity, makes it difficult for him to give compliments and make upbeat small talk. It also causes him to instinctively say “no” when he first hears a request. Others may perceive this as “snobbishness.” Unless the melancholic-phlegmatic is very comfortable, and is surrounded by understanding long-time friends, he may find himself somewhat isolated and alone, unable to warm up in a social gathering. He is less critical and less grudge-bearing than a pure melancholic or a melancholic-choleric. However, the tendency of the melancholic to dwell on things for a long time in their mind, combined with the sensitivity of the phlegmatic toward interpersonal relationships, can result in long-lasting hurts, an erosion of self-confidence and self-esteem, and even depression. Extremely sensitive and possessing a longing for the ideal (melancholic), they are also highly attentive to what others need or desire, through their phlegmatic aspect. This makes them more than usually susceptible to anxiety and a negative self-image
    This temperament combination is highly driven to succeed—not for success’ sake alone, but because their melancholic nature is drawn to high ideals, and their phlegmatic side will have a strong desire to please. Thus, they are capable of long-range planning, organization, and attention to detail that makes them excellent and conscientious scholars. They are capable of pursuing highly idealistic goals, usually with long-term academic requirements, such as attaining their doctorate. They value their friendships, but can spend many hours alone reading or studying. They may have a tendency to hypochondria or to genuine physical weaknesses, as well as a tendency to timidity and anxiety, especially about new activities or ventures.
    One melancholic-phlegmatic we know is highly organized, critical, slow, and dogmatically unforgiving, yet reveals her phlegmatic aspect in her intense discomfort with confrontation (unless she is very at ease among the warring members) and in her strong relationships with her friends. You wouldn’t guess that she is so devoted to her friends, however, because true to her melancholic nature she rarely initiates contact with them – they always have to call her first. A tendency to avoid the stresses of social interaction by spending overmuch time alone—whether in scholarly pursuits or reading for relaxation—is something that melancholic-phlegmatics need to watch out for.

    Melancholy Phlegmatic – MelPhleg – Hi C High S in DiSC parlance  This is what I do score.
    The Melancholy Phlegmatic types are often teachers and scholars.  They are not as prone to hostility as other melancholy blends and combine analysis with organization.    Unfortunately they can become easily discouraged and may be susceptible to fear and anxiety.  They may become uncooperative because of stubborn, rigid tendencies.
    This type may become lifelong students of one topic or another.  Because of their detailed and organized nature, it seems natural to keep learning more and more about a subject.  And the lack of drive of the Phlegmatic seems to make one subject enough.  This suggests that this type might make a good specialist in any area; such a medical specialist or a graduate studies professor.
    People of this type need friends with a Sanguine nature because, left totally to their own devices, the Melancholy Phlegmatic may fall into isolation and depression.  More than anything, this type needs to develop attitudes of peace and joy to counter their natural pessimism and fear.
    True Winter: the interior and exterior of this Season can seem thoroughly opposite; apparently assertive and unemotional, may feel uncertain or conflicted; reactions and opinions are all-or-nothing as their colors; fierce and floaty, heartless and vulnerable; oval and linear, at once; competitive, fair, disciplined to self-sacrified, seldom play victim role; carries themselves with distance, majesty, regal bearing; uncontained, expansive, tough and proud (Scaman paraphrased)

Whereas this does not as much:
L. Phlegmatic/Melancholic (SC T2/4 Cool Summer?) is gracious and quiet, does the proper thing and is dependable. He wobbles between patience and criticism and may tend toward negativism. They can be afraid of overextending themselves so may avoid involvement in a group. (Phlegmatic round face, Melancholic square face)

But if you combine an anxious Phlegmatic with a critical/analytical Melancholy you have the potential for someone who continually analyzes these anxieties making them worse.  A Phlegmatic Melancholy may seem easy-going but still be fearful underneath.  The main problem seems to be a sense of “false responsibility” taken for the problems of others. (codependent?)  For example, a worrier may think that if they don’t handle their job perfectly they will face job loss.  Or is they don’t help a spouse succeed by filling in their weaknesses, the spouse will fail.

The phlegmatic-melancholic is introverted (though less so than the melancholic-phlegmatic), which means that his deep emotions and anxieties tend not to be clearly expressed. They tend to react extremely slowly when confronted by antagonism or strong emotions. They are personable, quiet, and gentle. They value harmonious relationships. When you are first entering a relationship with a phlegmatic-melancholic, you may be struck by how easy-going and agreeable they are, but be aware that they are not revealing the depth of their emotions to you. They are deeply sensitive and value harmony and high ideals within a relationship. As a result of his delayed and sometimes dull response, a phlegmatic-melancholic will be slower to speak out, tempted to procrastinate, and reticent. They may appear – or believe themselves — at times to be “lazy.” At times when the melancholic aspect dominates, he will have plenty of time in which mull over in his mind what his response should have been. He may become easily offended (though he may not reveal this to you) or discouraged. The phlegmatic attentiveness to relationships, and to getting along and keeping the peace, will “take the edge off” some of the melancholic tendency to perfectionism and critical judgments of others. On the other hand, because he may be more easily offended, he may want to be critical of others yet hesitant to confront directly. The dominance of the phlegmatic temperament may also drive the melancholic proclivity to order and neatness out of the picture.
If you are a phlegmatic-melancholic, you will show a cooperative spirit and a desire to please, and will value harmonious relationships. You are particularly gifted in teaching, mediating among groups, and at counseling individuals. And though yours isn’t the most dynamic temperament, your lack of defensiveness, calmness under pressure, and gift for mediation in critical situations can make you a very effective servant-leader, one who is willing to roll up his sleeves and work along with those he leads by example.
If you are phlegmatic-melancholic, it’s likely that you are a bit more upbeat than the melancholic-phlegmatic, a little less introverted, more trusting, slightly less moody, more generous with your time, and a more gracious host. You will rarely find yourself angry (though your feelings may be easily hurt), forgive more readily, and do not hold onto hurts in the same way that a more dominantly melancholic temperament would. You are compassionate, sensitive, caring, and tend to gravitate to the helping professions. You are a patient and caring teacher. You are not as “perfectionist” as a pure melancholic, and generally struggle with organization, planning, and a tendency to procrastinate. You find it difficult to set limits or turn someone down who asks a favor of you; you may be especially drawn to volunteer or missionary work, the apostolate, or other works of mercy. Though very generous, you may find it difficult to set priorities or limits. Your phlegmatic side makes it hard to say “no” – although you really want to. Sometimes your generosity can result in not enough time to “get organized,” be prepared, or to relax. Burn-out and feeling overwhelmed may result.

*Phlegmatic Melancholy – PhlegMel – High S High C in DiSC parlance.*
The Phlegmatic Melancholy is a study in contrasts; usually acceptant of others, the Melancholy secondary type will cause them to be more critical and analytical.  In this case, where a Melancholy might be blatantly critical of someone, a Phlegmatic Melancholy may “hint” or “snipe” or in some other way let you know of their displeasure at your behavior.  This type is the most organized of the Phlegmatics due to the Melancholies organized nature.  This temperament works well in jobs requiring organization and an ability to be acceptant.
The Phlegmatic Melancholy make an excellent administrator; combining the ability to look at and solve problems with an ability to put up with schedules and bureaucracy.  They need a partner or spouse who understands their need to criticize things and people from time to time.
In summary, the Phlegmatic can be identified by a quiet, easygoing, unassuming nature.  Don’t mistake this introversion for arrogance; a Phlegmatic just wants to get along, find structure in life, and cherish a few key friendships and relationships.

True Summer: decency, dignity, decorum; courteous, never presuming; gentility, breeding, tradition, ancestry; misconceived to be fragile, the courage, strength and persistence of this character are truly awesome; least likely to knowingly or intentionally hurt another being; endless capacity to tolerate and forgive; hands makes circular gestures; manicured fingernails and careful choice of polish (Scaman paraphrased)

I can see why people wonder about 2/3:

    Simone de Beauvoir

    K. Phlegmatic/Choleric (SD T2/3 Soft Summer?) This is the most active of the introverts but he'll never be a ball of fire. He can be an excellent counselor because he is an active listener. He is practical and helpful and patient. He may lack motivation and may become stubborn if threatened. He may also have a tendency toward being sedentary and passive. He needs to be around other people as he is externally motivated. (Phlegmatic round face, Choleric triangular face)

    *Phlegmatic Choleric – PhlegChol – High S High D in DiSC parlance.*
    While still laid back, a Phlegmatic Choleric is the most driven of the Phlegmatics.  A Phlegmatic Choleric wants to accomplish what they have set their minds to, however, being Phlegmatic they don’t make a splash about it.  A Phlegmatic Choleric with a goal will simply go ahead and do what needs to be done – without fanfare or telling anyone.

    Since the Choleric has problems with anger, this is often reflected in the Phlegmatic Choleric as irritability or frustration.  Since the Phlegmatic is “hard to read”, there may not be an obvious reason for this reaction.  For example, traffic backups can irritate a Phlegmatic Choleric; but little warning about their irritation is visible until they comment.
    These individuals can make excellent team leaders – they are the only Phlegmatic type that may rise to leadership.  Because their Choleric secondary type is a Driver and their primary Phlegmatic is easygoing, these can combine to make a leader who can handle a variety of personalities.  The Phlegmatic Choleric needs to have a partner or spouse who understands – and more importantly – accepts their quiet ways.   Another Phlegmatic may be best suited while a Choleric or Melancholy will be a less likely match.

    Soft Summer: combines Summer's care and self discipline with Autumn's determined efficiency; summer's soft toughness with autumn's straightforward delivery; no drama, no mischief, loads of common sense, calm and composed, well behaved, deeply giving; Sumer's patience and kindness with Autumn's willingness to adapt to new ideas; gladly promoting causes they believe in, insist on truth, unthreatened by others, balancing love and boundaries (Scaman paraphrased)

  • Control = PC Phlegmatic Choleric
  • Inclusion = PC Phlegmatic Choleric
  • Affection = PC Phlegmatic Choleric

H. Melancholic/Choleric see also (CD T4/3 Deep Winter?) is both a perfectionist and a driver which may lead him into the law or medicine. They mix decisiveness and determination. Because of the critical nature of the melancholy they may be very difficult to please. If they become negative about someone or something it will have a tendency to stay with them for a long time. Their combination can lead them to "nit-pick" others and be revengeful to those they have a grudge against. (Melancholic square face, Choleric triangular face)

Deep Winter (soft) 4/3/2 You are deep, thoughtful, analytical, insightful, serious, purposeful, genius prone, talented, creative, possibly artistc, musical, poetic or philisophical. You are considerate, conscientious, self-sacrificing, and sensitive to others. In the workplace you set high standards, pick up after others, are schedule oriented, organized, detail concious, persistent, and thorough. You like charts and graphs. You see the problems and find creative solutions. As a friend, you make friend's cautiously, are content to stay in the background, avoid causing attention, are faithful and devoted, deeply concerned for others, will listen to complaints, and you can solve people's problems.

H. Melancholic/Choleric see also (CD T4/3 Deep Winter?) is both a perfectionist and a driver which may lead him into the law or medicine. They mix decisiveness and determination. Because of the critical nature of the melancholy they may be very difficult to please. If they become negative about someone or something it will have a tendency to stay with them for a long time. Their combination can lead them to "nit-pick" others and be revengeful to those they have a grudge again

But your weaknesses include a tendency to excessive self-criticism and criticism of others, being dismissive or overly judgmental, exhibiting a tendency to self-absorption, and possessing an untrustful and controlling nature. You tend to be inflexible, can bear grudges for a long time and may be prone to discouragement. A melancholic-choleric who is not attentive to his spiritual life, and does not keep his eye assiduously on the truly important things of life can become a cross to those around him, through his nit-picking, perfectionism, disdain, bitterness, resentfulness, spitefulness when crossed, and even haughtiness.

 This post on talks about reconciling the DiSC (phlegmtic, sanguine, choleric, melancholy) with Myers-Briggs – something that is somewhat difficult to do.
This blog posting covers a brief attempt to reconcile the two personality systems.

D = ExTP
I = ExFP
S = IxFJ
C = xSTJ

High C = xSTJ and High S=IxFJ = INTJ for me

One = moderate D, low I, moderate S, very high C
Two = low D, high I, high S, low C
Three = moderate D, high I, low S, moderate C
Four = low D, low I, moderate S, low C
Five = moderate D, very low I, low S, moderate C
Six = low D, high I, high S, high C
Seven = high D (if 7w8), very high I, low S, very low C
Eight = very high D, moderate I, very low S, moderate C
Nine = very low D, moderate I, very high S, moderate C

DISC type/Enneagram type
D = 3, 7, 8 (best matches with 8)
I = 2, 3, 7 (best matches with 7)
S = 4, 6, 9 (best matches with 9)
C = 1, 5, 6 (best matches with 1)
Enneagram Test Results
Type 1 Perfectionism |||||||||||| 50%
Type 2 Helpfulness |||||||||||||| 58%
Type 3 Image Focus |||||||||||| 42%
Type 4 Individualism |||||||||||||| 58%
Type 5 Intellectualism |||||||||||||||| 70%
Type 6 Security Focus |||||||||||||||| 62%
Type 7 Adventurousness |||||| 26%
Type 8 Aggressiveness |||||||||||||| 54%
Type 9 Calmness |||||||||||| 50%
Your main type is 5
Your variant is self pres

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typescoretype behavior motivation
517 I must be knowledgeable to survive.
615 I must be secure and safe to survive.
214 I must be helpful and caring to survive.
414 I must be unique/different to survive.
813 I must be strong and in control to survive.
112 I must be perfect and good to survive.
912 I must maintain peace/calm to survive.
310 I must be impressive and attractive to survive.
76 I must be fun and entertained to survive.

My ennegram results as mainly a 5, which is High C/T4 and D/T3, low S/T2 and very low I/T1.
Followed by an S, which is High C/T4, S/T2 and I/T1, but low D/T3.
Enneagram 5 is like the Scholar.

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