Friday, March 29, 2013

Parenting Books based on temperament

Parenting books based on temperament by professionals

Robert A. Rohm is a PhD-level psychology expert who co-authored two D-I-S-C personality 4-type system PARENTING books.These people are actual experts in style or psychology. In comparison, Carol Tuttle is an EFT tapping practitioner, NOT a licensed psychotherapist.

D child Leader, I child Entertainer, S child Caregiver, C child Thinker
(Type 3                Type 1                Type 2                Type 4)

DISC Parenting Tips

Dr. Robert Rohm, PhD Psychologist
Who Do You Think You Are Anyway?Different Children, Different Needs: Understanding the Unique Personality of Your Child
Who Do You Think You Are Anyway? c) 1997
by Robert A. Rohm

DISC Personality Test
Different Children, Different Needs: Unders...c) 2004
by Charles F. Boyd, 



 John Gray, PhD

In John Gray’s 1999 parenting book Children Are From Heaven (he penned the famous Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus series of titles), he discusses another modern version of the four classical temperaments. His categories are Sensitive, Active, Responsive and Receptive.  Summary

Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger
Paul D. Tieger is an internationally recognized expert in Personality Type. The Founder and first Director of The New England Type Institute, Paul has personally trained thousands of managers, team leaders, HR professionals, career consultants, psychologists, attorneys, and educators.

In Nurture by Nature: Understand Your Child's Personality Type - And Become a Better Parent, Tieger and Tieger apply the Myers-Briggs Personality Indicator (or Keirsey Temperament Sorter) to raising children by their unique design. The whole family can take the personality test. Or you can use an observation checklist with younger children.

MotherStyles: Using Personality Type to Discover Your Parenting StrengthsBy Janet Penley, Diane Eble

"An antidote to our stressed-out mother culture, MotherStyles validates the notion that good mothering comes in many styles and explains how understanding how you most often react to your child and why is the most important step toward working through areas that have long given you trouble. Drawing on the personality type-theory popularized by the Myers-Briggs(r) Type Indicator and author Janet Penley's more than eighteen years of working with mothers, MotherStyles explains the combinations of traits that make up sixteen distinct mothering approaches. From the "Tuned-In Mother," the "Heart-to-Heart Mother," and the "Kids 'r' Fun Mother" to the "Responsibility Mother" and the "Independence Mother," Penley helps readers identify which style reflects her own strengths, struggles, and needs and, from there, offers unique and concrete ideas for ways to overcome the parenting challenges inherent to each type. Guiding mothers to an understanding of how type affects parent-child interactions and family dynamics,MotherStyles will help moms everywhere to recharge their batteries, and find success in this most important of roles."

Nurture the Nature: Understanding and Supporting Your Child's Unique Core PersonalityBy Michael Gurian

"Family therapist Gurian (The Wonder of Girls) approaches his nature-based theme from a slightly different angle in his latest work, urging parents to buck "social trends parenting" and make decisions based on the core personality of their individual child. A researcher of brain science and gender differences, Gurian believes that much of a child's behavior is inborn from the start. But Gurian sees a disturbing trend in parents' increasing willingness to disregard their own instincts, letting media and society-driven fads dictate the way they raise their kids. In his own "clinical detective work," he has found that children are becoming bogged down by activity overload and the "material anxiety" that arises from trying to keep up with the latest designer fads or electronic gadgets. Gurian presents an in-depth, chapter-by-chapter analysis of child development, beginning at infancy and ending in early adulthood. Gurian's presentation is comprehensive and peppered with fascinating facts (i.e., how pheromones of biological fathers affect the onset of girls' puberty or how parts of a toddler's brain actually swell during a tantrum). The author's new text will help parents begin, in the tradition of Maria Montessori, to "follow the child," rather than adapt their kids to a contemporary one-size-fits-all mold. (May)"

Here's an online personality test you can do to try to 
determine your child's personality.
Here's a printable Child Temperament Sorter.

Early child (4 to 8) Here

Middle Child (9 to 12) Here

  • On the main blog for Turtle Dove Counseling, I have a post with many links on Personality Typing.
  • At my Jane Rekas Recommends site, I list various books on Personality.

  • Did you know that using the four temperaments (or types) to understand children goes back as far as Steiner of Waldorf?

    Immanuel Kant (1724–1804), Rudolf Steiner (1861–1925), Alfred Adler (1879–1937), Erich Adickes (1866–1925), Eduard Spranger (1914), Ernst Kretschmer(1920), and Erich Fromm (1947) all theorized on the four temperaments (with different names) and greatly shaped our modern theories of temperament.

    Similar paragraphs in Carol Tuttle's IT'S JUST MY NATURE 2009 pg 63 and Boyd/Rohm's DIFFERENT CHILDREN, DIFFERENT NEEDS 2004 pg 239:
    Rohm Type I: "tone of your voice goes up and down"
    Tuttle Type 1: "tone of your voice rises and falls"
    Rohm Type I: "Dramatic" "Expressive" "descriptive"
    Ruttle Type 1: "dramatic, expressive, descriptive"
    Rohm Type I: "gesture with your hands"
    Tuttle Type 1: "talk with your hands"

    More examples of Carol Tuttle's IT'S JUST MY NATURE 2009 compared to Boyd/Rohm's DIFFERENT CHILDREN, DIFFERENT NEEDS 2004:
    Rohm Type C:  "'Lighten up!' Don't take everything so seriously." "critical" "serious"
    Tuttle Type 4:  "'Lighten up!' or Don't be so critical or serious."
    Rohm Type I:  "You can form an image of something in your mind and see it clearly when there's nothing tangible to see."
    Tuttle Type 1: "you readily see what doesn't exist physically"
    Rohm Type S: "Don't be...demanding."
    Tuttle Type 2: "Don't get ... demanding"
    Rohm Type I: "juggle several balls at once"
    Tuttle Type 1: "juggle many things at once" "create too many new balls to juggle"
    Rohm Type D: "you can be relied upon to get the job done"
    Tuttle Type 3: "Your reputation is, 'You can count on them to get the job done.'"
    Rohm pg 155: "you are a mirror"
    Tuttle Type 4: "you are an energetic mirror"
    Rohm Type C: "high standards...low self esteem because they don't come up to those personal standards" Tuttle Type 4: "set standards that neither your nor anyone else can meet...low self-esteem"
    Rohm Type C: "quiet self-confidence"
    Tuttle Type 4: "quiet confidence"
    Rohm Type C: "time alone to process his thoughts and feelings" "needs time alone to think, process, and percolate"
    Tuttle Type 4: "need time alone to process their thoughts and feelings"

    Carol Tuttle's IT'S JUST MY NATURE 2009 compared to 
    Rohm Type I: "You are a breath of fresh air" 
    Tuttle Type 1: "You are a breath of fresh air" "You truly are a 'breathe of fresh air'" 
    Rohm Type I "'rabbit type'"  
    Tuttle Type1: "Rabbits"  
    Rohm Type I: "bouncing around" 
    Tuttle Type 1: "move though life like a bouncing ball"  
    Rohm Type I: "walks into a room, the room lights up!"  
    Tuttle Type 1: "light up the room when you enter"  
    Rohm Type I "hard time sitting still"  
    Tuttle Type 1: "do not like to sit or stand still"   
    Rohm Type I: "get twice as much...with praise" "Praise them" "thank them"  
    Tuttle Type 1: "praise them and thank them" "praised his idea...praised him" 
    Rohm Type I: "impulsive...jump into the pool" "impulsive swimmer...jumped into the pool" 
    Tuttle Type 1: "impulse to run into the ocean" 
    Rohm Type I: "precocious"
    Tuttle Type 1: "Precocious"  
    Rohm Type I: "trendsetter" "see what the latest fads and trends are, and then go after them"  
    Tuttle Type 1: "Trendy" 
    Rohm Type S: "perceived as a doormat or pushover" "can turn into doormats" 
    Tuttle Type 2: "viewed my mother as somewhat of a doormat" 
    Rohm Type D: "creates change to get the results she wants"  
    Tuttle Type 3: "action that creates results and change" 
    Rohm's Positive Personality Profiles 
    Rohm Type C: "keen eyes"  
    Tuttle Type 4: "keen eye" 
    You've Got Style 
    Rohm:   "pull" (Type I) "bend" (Type S) "push" (Type D) "stiffen" (Type C) 
    Tuttle: "pull" (Type 1) "bend" (Type 2) "push" (Type 3) "stiff" (Type 4)
    Different Children, Different Needs 
    Rohm Type I: "Fun-Loving"                 
    Tuttle Type 1: "Fun-loving" 
    Rohm Type S: "Sensitive"                  
    Tuttle Type 2: "Sensitive Child" 
    Rohm Type D: "Determined Children"  
    Tuttle Type 3: "Determined Child"    
    "Personality Insights for Moms" 
    Rohm Type C: "more serious type" 
    Tuttle Type 4: "more serious child" 
    Rohm Type I: "High energy...tendencies can be misunderstood by parents and ADHD misdiagnosis..." 
    Tuttle type 1: "labeled hyperactive and ADHD only to find out they were just high movement."

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    1 comment:

    Wayne Jones - Educational Consultant said...

    I would like to add a book to the list of those parenting books based on temperament: "Great Parenting Skills (GPS) for Navigating Your Kid's Personality" - which my wife, Kate, wrote with supporting detail and editing by me. The book is published by Career/LifeSkills Resources ( located just north of Toronto Ontario. ISBN 978-1-894422-55-0
    Kate and I both hold Masters of Education degrees from Brock University and present parenting seminars and workshops throughout Ontario, although we do travel to the U.S. as well. Our book uses the popular assessment Personality Dimensions as the basis of temperament information with strong reliance on the work of David Keirsey and Linda Berens. The book is available through the publisher, and our website: and through Amazon.
    Please consider adding it to your list.