first posted 8/7/13
Welcome to the middle way....
I am a DBT therapist, which means that I work with Dialectics. What is that? I always think of the closely related word: dialogue. A dialectic is the interchange between two extremes. Usually it is a "thesis" and it's "anti-thesis" coming together in "synthesis."
The shorter definition is the middle, or "both / and...."
So a central dialectic in DBT is: ACCEPTANCE and CHANGE
A student of mindfulness practices radical acceptance, while also being responsible and accountable for change in her life.
So what the heck does this have to do with EXPRESSING YOUR TRUTH?
I have mentioned before that I experience and observe times when this process of trying to discover the truth about one's temperament (or type), in order to wear the right clothing to express it, becomes rather like the spin cycle!
Over and over again, I see women rub up against their shadow and resist recognizing aspects of themselves they'd rather not see. .. and it usually starts with watching myself do that.
I keep making the point in my facebook group that if you decide your type and it means that you continue dressing the same way you are already comfortable with, then why are you doing this? Prepare yourself to look at yourself as a whole, non-judgmentally. What is it that you may be repressing and thus resisting? Can you allow that to show? It may just be the aspects you dread that once you accept, you will become authentic. I know that the aspects of myself that I repress always find a way to come out sideways, anyway.
So, accept who you are in totality when you look for your type (or season), and then change (your clothes!).
This blog, for me, has been a research receptacle. I just like cataloging what I learn as I go. More and more, I stumble upon a lot of opinions and even competition between theories and systems. I have learned a lot, but I will never be done. That is how I like to learn. It's why I like astrology, you can never be done learning about it. I like considering different perspectives, but with a looseness that doesn't require too tight of a commitment, and doesn't preclude truth being in several sources.